* why can not we be friends (8)? You what they say ..
In a micro I just did, the result was 50-50, a friend thinks there is no problem being friends with the friends of the ex, and another believed that "there is the voice. "
But outside opinions of others, I think it's perfectly normal. It is a question I did with the last ex (can not remember whether I did or not the above). I wondered then: "Will her everything revolves around him?". His family, his sister, his friends, his friends, the places most often.
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What I did was the ultimate answer. I was going to attend (and do) the same places we used to go. Case solved. The rest fell under its own weight, at the time. I knew almost nothing of his family or his people. But that would change.
THE LANDSCAPE WAS DARK ...
For some reason (I know, but do not tell) I took her friends like her, and considered as part of the problem. Even in a premature assumption paranoid, I concluded that even guilty of a kind of moral support to stay away from me. As they gave the reason and even add reasons.
But I recognize that not all that happened. With three other kept talking. And they showed me their support and even put on my side. That might put more wood on the fire to think that others were against.
worse when she started dating. I decided to think they thought he was a better match than me. As the supporters and I just reminded me with compassion. Despite that, I made the decision not to be resentful, and when I crossed them, greet them and show my affection. Because at the end of the day they had (and I have them) so much affection.
Then came that day. One of her friends wanted to do the crazy (I understand, you do not always know how to react), but I stood firm with the raised arm salute. I returned the greeting happy and crossed a few words. From there, I have found it many times and talked for a while. Also I have on msn and we chat occasionally. Bravazo with it.
same with another of her friends. To talk to her often, we turn to a resounding never even on msn. Several months later, I decided it was a very great and spoke nonsense. We're good friends (before we were think of it more like a friend of my girlfriend and I the love of her friend, who is not at all the same.)
LIGHT BUT VI.
was sometime time during this process I realized something. I put in place and remembered how I felt when my friend ended up with his girlfriend. I remembered that I really do not sided with anyone. My friend was still my friend, and if he decided to undertake a new adventure with someone else, because I was there for him. As for his ex, it seemed logical that it was not going to talk to ask what plans or stupid and mean. I do not know. In the end it is better to be cautious, do not know if they are right or wrong. And gradually you realize that webas, we can all be friends.
Then I changed my mind and erased everything I had thought. They were not guilty of anything. Made they had to do: stand next to your friend. And now I can also consider my friends.
Can your ex-girlfriends also be your friends? For me, yes. Although, putting into place, I understand why it bothers you so. Suddenly feel that invade their territory, their friends I pay attention (attention to someone who is part of his past and no longer of this, time that could invest more in it), her friends are "his" possession and I would be the "removing" that she simply "is" or, most likely of all, that bothers you is not friends with her but of her friends.
But that is another issue. Here everyone can be friends with everyone and no one can tell anyone who is, ceases to be or not be friends with anyone.
an amen for that!
* why can not we be friends? You what they say ..
flickr Credits:
Photo 1 and 2. colors_fade
Photo 3. Pink Sherbet Photography
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