* This post does not represent any message to anyone in particular. My case, in all honesty and after listening to explanations, it was not described here.
Today I will give some tips to avoid making certain mistakes, or to not commit them again. It is true that we are human and make mistakes is part of our nature. Is inevitable. But beware, one thing is making a mistake, and another to do it and that it will fuck someone's life. Worse if it is constant. What to say and what not to say, what to do and what not to do. It can be very subjective, it probably is, like everything in this blog. But it applies to many cases.
How to be a good girlfriend
Please take note. There are things you definitely do NOT have to do if they want to consider you a good girlfriend. And you do not talk about Tilden and during the relationship, but after. That's the key: what matters is how you remember.
1. I love you, and I will do all my life.
No, do not. If you love, well, tell him. But do not say anything you do not know for sure you'll do it later. Do not throw phrases in a manner so free. Remember that you have before you a man who feels, and that you care. If you are in love, he will believe, and if completed, will think this: 'is not going to love me forever? ". The same applies for "I'll never leave" and less thought "I will marry you," "I'll have little children with you, and will call such, such and such" and more blah, blah, blah . And please, do not ever promise or swear. Promises worth gold. Do not say just like that.
2. Do not confuse love with infatuation.
two words may seem to refer to the same, but their similarity is not exact. What may be obvious is that you love someone when that person falls. But again careful, you could be losing the charm, blurring go falling in love, and still love to follow him. What to do in a difficult time like this? First, ends with him. He does not deserve a girl who is no longer in love with him follow your hand. It would make creating false illusions. He deserves to know the truth. Second, do not tell that you love, hurts. So I would to say that is not love, just remnants of what was and will be slowly dying because of your falling out of love. Tell him you love him a lot, basically like you to know, but never, under no circumstances, will you continue to say that you love. We want to hear, but will not do anything right. And think about it, do you really love him?
How to be a good ex-girlfriend
But as you expect to be well remembered not just a couple of weeks after the ending, but much longer (of course, if you care), then I also want to take note this. Because the truth is that it is useless to have been a very good girlfriend, if you then cast it all to lose doing whatever you want and throwing phrases with a deadly poison. If your ex still strong feeling things for you, then you should be the first to pay attention.
1. "I love you ... but I prefer to be alone"
Ok. Two small things, mama. First, if the relationship was stormy and it was best to separate, okay, I understand. But if not, then at least be consistent with what you say. Define 'alone' and then think how it would affect the person who according to you 'love'. Do you realize? 'Sola' should mean one, not 'without love, but with a boy I go just to grab, and occasionally there is also another grip. " No, that does not mean 'alone'. Better say you want to date other people, be sincere. Do not want one, but several. And at least you do not then no more afterwards. And, indeed, better not tell him you love him. Why do not you believe anything.
2. "I love you ... but I'm not for you"
is the formal way of saying 'not you, it's me. " Classic. Who has not happened? Or who has not said? No one is safe. Why it's best not to let the other person to decide what is best for him? Do not try to be their savior. He did not believe it until you experience it for yourself. Or tell the truth, because in fact it has something to do in the matter, and anyway he is also, not just you. And on the other hand, if what you say is true, then what you say you love him. So, what do you tell someone you love if you think you do not deserve it. It's absurd. It makes no sense.
3. I love you ... but I love my work more "
can be many: 'I love you, but I love most ... my career, college, my friends, my future, my life." Is the crude way of saying 'I love you, but I prefer my ... all the above. " What he thinks is: ok, do not love me enough time. O: ok, do not love me as before, and then some became more important than me. But as I am aware that in life we \u200b\u200ball have dreams, and they almost always are older couples, then I will give the reason. If your boyfriend will realize yourself as a person stop, then leave. Is strong, not easy, but first you. Of course, first exhaust all possibilities to stay with him, nor get off the car suddenly, as if it meant anything. And again, do not tell him you love him. For him, 'Do not love enough' is the same as nothing.
4. "I I love ... but as a friend "
not you dare. You're the former, not the friend. There is a gulf of difference. Especially if you have just finished. Give her time, long time. And nobody says anything. Please do not tell him you love him as a friend. You love your friends but not your ex as a friend. It is against nature. Not that this is exaggerated. I say this for him, who think that: '... better tell me you love me no longer. "
5. "I love you ... but I love him"
Almost without comment. If you fall in love with another, take responsibility and consequences. Better do the following: say you love someone, ask forgiveness, and disappears from the map. It's the best you can do. Of course he will hate you, it should be. What a shame, but no further. Deal with it. Do not go around trying to look good, they get along. Is useless. And let's say that you love him too. I do not want to hear. No never understand how you can love someone else too. In a good Christian, do not be Conchuda, mama.
6. "I love you, I die for you, I will marry you ... but I will be with you right now"
If the first part of the sentence, he felt a lump in the throat, he stopped the chest and the heart was burned, with the second half you're done to stop your seat, change of face, a couple of seconds left stunned and screaming a couple of sentences you'd better not have heard. Not that you're bad, it's not fair. Better, when you're determined, there let them know what you want. While not want to go back with him, do not let sentences without any guarantee of performance. If you're not going to be with him, at least let him live in peace, and do not yet know when you'll want him back cn. I know that deep down you love him, and if he loves you too, will continue or resume doing what they have at the right time. Do not hesitate.
* I know this post could easily belong to a style section "Women affected" by the magazine Us, but in male version. Most men, always bringing out their side of insensitive male would be unable to recognize much of the above. But it happens. Certainly not in all cases, and probably without realizing it, but it happens.
Today I will give some tips to avoid making certain mistakes, or to not commit them again. It is true that we are human and make mistakes is part of our nature. Is inevitable. But beware, one thing is making a mistake, and another to do it and that it will fuck someone's life. Worse if it is constant. What to say and what not to say, what to do and what not to do. It can be very subjective, it probably is, like everything in this blog. But it applies to many cases.
How to be a good girlfriend
Please take note. There are things you definitely do NOT have to do if they want to consider you a good girlfriend. And you do not talk about Tilden and during the relationship, but after. That's the key: what matters is how you remember.
1. I love you, and I will do all my life.
No, do not. If you love, well, tell him. But do not say anything you do not know for sure you'll do it later. Do not throw phrases in a manner so free. Remember that you have before you a man who feels, and that you care. If you are in love, he will believe, and if completed, will think this: 'is not going to love me forever? ". The same applies for "I'll never leave" and less thought "I will marry you," "I'll have little children with you, and will call such, such and such" and more blah, blah, blah . And please, do not ever promise or swear. Promises worth gold. Do not say just like that. 2. Do not confuse love with infatuation.
two words may seem to refer to the same, but their similarity is not exact. What may be obvious is that you love someone when that person falls. But again careful, you could be losing the charm, blurring go falling in love, and still love to follow him. What to do in a difficult time like this? First, ends with him. He does not deserve a girl who is no longer in love with him follow your hand. It would make creating false illusions. He deserves to know the truth. Second, do not tell that you love, hurts. So I would to say that is not love, just remnants of what was and will be slowly dying because of your falling out of love. Tell him you love him a lot, basically like you to know, but never, under no circumstances, will you continue to say that you love. We want to hear, but will not do anything right. And think about it, do you really love him?
How to be a good ex-girlfriend
But as you expect to be well remembered not just a couple of weeks after the ending, but much longer (of course, if you care), then I also want to take note this. Because the truth is that it is useless to have been a very good girlfriend, if you then cast it all to lose doing whatever you want and throwing phrases with a deadly poison. If your ex still strong feeling things for you, then you should be the first to pay attention.
1. "I love you ... but I prefer to be alone"
Ok. Two small things, mama. First, if the relationship was stormy and it was best to separate, okay, I understand. But if not, then at least be consistent with what you say. Define 'alone' and then think how it would affect the person who according to you 'love'. Do you realize? 'Sola' should mean one, not 'without love, but with a boy I go just to grab, and occasionally there is also another grip. " No, that does not mean 'alone'. Better say you want to date other people, be sincere. Do not want one, but several. And at least you do not then no more afterwards. And, indeed, better not tell him you love him. Why do not you believe anything. 2. "I love you ... but I'm not for you"
is the formal way of saying 'not you, it's me. " Classic. Who has not happened? Or who has not said? No one is safe. Why it's best not to let the other person to decide what is best for him? Do not try to be their savior. He did not believe it until you experience it for yourself. Or tell the truth, because in fact it has something to do in the matter, and anyway he is also, not just you. And on the other hand, if what you say is true, then what you say you love him. So, what do you tell someone you love if you think you do not deserve it. It's absurd. It makes no sense.
3. I love you ... but I love my work more "
can be many: 'I love you, but I love most ... my career, college, my friends, my future, my life." Is the crude way of saying 'I love you, but I prefer my ... all the above. " What he thinks is: ok, do not love me enough time. O: ok, do not love me as before, and then some became more important than me. But as I am aware that in life we \u200b\u200ball have dreams, and they almost always are older couples, then I will give the reason. If your boyfriend will realize yourself as a person stop, then leave. Is strong, not easy, but first you. Of course, first exhaust all possibilities to stay with him, nor get off the car suddenly, as if it meant anything. And again, do not tell him you love him. For him, 'Do not love enough' is the same as nothing.
4. "I I love ... but as a friend "
not you dare. You're the former, not the friend. There is a gulf of difference. Especially if you have just finished. Give her time, long time. And nobody says anything. Please do not tell him you love him as a friend. You love your friends but not your ex as a friend. It is against nature. Not that this is exaggerated. I say this for him, who think that: '... better tell me you love me no longer. " 5. "I love you ... but I love him"
Almost without comment. If you fall in love with another, take responsibility and consequences. Better do the following: say you love someone, ask forgiveness, and disappears from the map. It's the best you can do. Of course he will hate you, it should be. What a shame, but no further. Deal with it. Do not go around trying to look good, they get along. Is useless. And let's say that you love him too. I do not want to hear. No never understand how you can love someone else too. In a good Christian, do not be Conchuda, mama.
6. "I love you, I die for you, I will marry you ... but I will be with you right now"
If the first part of the sentence, he felt a lump in the throat, he stopped the chest and the heart was burned, with the second half you're done to stop your seat, change of face, a couple of seconds left stunned and screaming a couple of sentences you'd better not have heard. Not that you're bad, it's not fair. Better, when you're determined, there let them know what you want. While not want to go back with him, do not let sentences without any guarantee of performance. If you're not going to be with him, at least let him live in peace, and do not yet know when you'll want him back cn. I know that deep down you love him, and if he loves you too, will continue or resume doing what they have at the right time. Do not hesitate. * I know this post could easily belong to a style section "Women affected" by the magazine Us, but in male version. Most men, always bringing out their side of insensitive male would be unable to recognize much of the above. But it happens. Certainly not in all cases, and probably without realizing it, but it happens.
